Cant we all just get along?

    The very first time I got into raw foods I was starry eyed and excited.  I read about all these people who found that once they got into raw foods something in them just changed.  All of a sudden they were at peace with the universe and with themselves.  They found a calm they had never known before and all was well with the world.  That is what I wanted.  I am a woman who loathes drama,  I like peace and quiet and I really like for things to be well with the world so to be connected to something with people like that was  a dream for me.    What I didn’t realize was that there always has to be party poopers.

     Not to be making excuses for my backsliding back then but part of the reason I became so disillusioned was the blatant anger that some people had with anyone that had different raw food ideas then their raw food guru.   It became more of a subject of who’s right and wrong then what will make you feel amazing.   I understand the passion of wanting to share the amazing results of what you’ve accomplished thus far and having an overwhelming desire to want everyone to do this with you…  really,  I get it…I do… but… BACK OFF!!

   Here’s the deal,  no one likes being told they are wrong!  Plus,  why would you?  Why discourage someone who is trying to better themselves and in spite of their families and friends probably working against them are chipping away at old habits and built up toxins to try and come out glowing with health and amazing vitality?   Why be the person that gives that  person teetering towards giving up the push that makes them feel it’s just too hard?    Whether you do it because you secretly have an eating disorder and it makes you feel better to show others how you do raw foods better then them or because  you’ve had so many successes with your plan that you want to  show people how much better it is then what they are doing,  you need to adjust your way of  dealing with people.

    Every single person  has different live experiences,  different body types and different health histories.  We all have different tastes and habits.  We all have different schedules and incomes.   What has worked amazingly for one person may not work at all for someone else.    Part of what makes life so interesting is how unique each of us are,  what we can all bring to the table.    I have read the most awesome success stories from just about every type of natural eating program I can think of and, quite frankly,  isn’t  the most important part of this journey  that the person overcomes what inflicts them and that they succeed and thrive.  

    I’m not really sure if I’m writing this for the person who is the “Negative Nelly” or the person who is bordering on giving up or both.  I guess I just really wanted to let everyone know that it doesn’t matter if your following Doug Graham, Paul Nison, Roe Gallo,  or David Wolfe.  If your a Raw Foodist,  Vegetarian,  Vegan or a Flexitarian.  We are all striving towards the same goal and we are not a big enough community to not cheer eachother on and welcome newcomers  with open arms and warm support.   If you haven’t already, discover the joy that comes from lifting someone else’s spirits with kind words  of  encouragements.  After all,   I believe it’s well known that if you cant say something nice your not supposed to say anything at  all. 

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